Frequently Asked Questions
The Man Who Saw God Face To Face
Raphael Okechukwu Nweze
- In the face of increasing family crisis and marriage
failure, what can a woman do, taking into consideration that marriage is
for better for worse?
- The first duty of the
man and woman, as well as that of the relations, is to seek for peaceful
settlements. You might have observed that when there is misunderstanding,
one or both parties, do emphasize the bad aspects in the marriage, when
they should encourage themselves with the good aspects. You discover that
most failures are caused by stubbornness or unforgiving spirit,
instigated by the demonic and marine spirits.
- The term for better for
worse, simply means that a woman should not leave her husband because the
husband, who was once a rich man, has become poor man. Likewise, the man
should not hate or divorce his wife because the beautiful woman has
sustained an injury. For better for worse does not mean that a man or
woman shall join the partner in doing evil, in idol worship, in secret
society or in doing injustice to their fellow human beings.
- How can people avoid family crisis in sharing
- Family properties
should be shared, equally and wisely.
- Due consideration and
special shares should be given, according to what God said. For example,
the first son should receive double portion, because he would much of his
time attending to extended family matters, while others are busy making
money and acquiring properties for themselves.
- Sharing should be
wisely done, in such a way that properties should not be abused or
misused. For example, it is better to leave a compound for one family
than to divide into two or more useless portions.
- Is a man free to cancel a proposed marriage because the
woman is not yet pregnant?
- The natural law of life
is “First things first”. That means that a person should follow due
process in every engagement.
- He is not free, he is
not allowed, to cancel the marriage.
- Besides, it is not a
must that a woman delivers a child 9 months after marriage. Some are
destined to be born in 9 months, 12 months, or 15 months, even in 2 years time.
- Again, hurrying to get
children is not good. Being in a haste produces children who are
impatient, merciless, heartless and intolerant.
- Be warned.
- How often should a couple sleep together?
As often as they like, provided that they obey the laws of holiness as
specified in the Holy Scriptures:
Also, when a woman lies with a man, and there is an emission of semen,
they shall bathe in water, and be unclean until evening. Leviticus 15:18
At least 12 hours before entering the church or holy place.
- Someone that gave birth in her father’s house and
another that committed abortion, which of them committed an abomination?
Two of them committed abominations. However, the girl who gave birth in
her father’s house is far more righteous than the other, who committed
- If a pregnant woman has complications, in her pregnancy
or child delivery, is it right to abort the child?
In a complication, it may be good to save one person, while the other
dies. However, bear in mind that it is an abomination to commit abortion.
In every situation, inquire from God what to do.
- Should a church ban its members, especially women, from
marrying people of other churches?
- Religion or church
should not be causing quarrel among humanity. You should know that it is
the religious leaders who instigate many of the families
crisis, because they are competing for increased membership.
- In the ideal case of
marriage, a couple is one person divided into two separate beings.
Therefore, nobody, and no religion, should determine the marriage partner
for a person. That is why and how ˝ + ˝ = 1 (Not 1 + 1 = 1, as people
- The unfortunate thing
is that majority are not marrying the right partners, because people are
spiritually blind and ignorant, after failing to study and practice
- For the sake of peace
and harmony, it is good to belong to the same religion. But, this is not
necessarily compulsory, except where the two partners belong to the true
worship of God.
- One can marry a person
of other religion, provided that doing so does not prevent a person from
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married another woman. And later, the former wife repented and returned to the
man’s house. What should the man do? To continue to marry the first or second
When there are problems in
marriage, people should not be in haste to divorce and marry another person. The
disputes and arguments may become so clear in the future, that a person who was
once considered guilty is proven to be innocent. In such a case as presented
above, the man shall continue to marry the two wives.
Always remember that, by
forgiveness you defeat the enemies, who are Satan, the evil spirits and demons,
and also win back your brother, sister, father, mother, relation or loved one.
The only desire of Satan and the kingdom of darkness is to push and pull
everybody into the hell fire. But you can always defeat this plan, by defending
the brother hood of mankind, through forgiveness.
What if a man wants to marry
another wife, is he free to do so?
First, the oath of marriage, “until
death do us apart,” has to be removed from the marriage vows, so that where
absolutely necessary, a person can marry another wife or husband.
Marrying a second wife or husband
is absolutely necessary, if the first wife is infertile or the first husband is
Two, where it is necessary for a
man to marry another wife, he has to consider the issue with his wife, and two
of them have to agree and plan on what shall be done. The man should not
exclude the wife, take all the decisions alone and effect another marriage,
without telling the first wife.
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